Are You A Bridezilla?

Between saying your Yes and I do’s you’ll be seeing yourself undergo a transformation of sorts. You’ll learn to manage time, people, finances, and relationships. On the other hand, you might be well on your way to becoming a bridezilla. Going to extremes to make sure that your wedding is perfect can actually lead to failed friendships, lay-offs, and a bad rep. Keep in mind these few suggestions to give yourself, your parents and in-laws, your guests, and your bridesmaids room to breathe.

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Stick to your (and everyone’s) budget

Your parents will be shelling out for your big day, so be careful not to go over your set budget. Also keep in mind that your guests do have children and pets to feed and bills to pay for, so when preparing for your bridal registry, choose ones that you think will fall into their budget. While your family and best friends will be willing to splurge for you, some of the other guests with whom you don’t equally share the same kind of relationship with will be limiting themselves to giving you what they can afford.

Be flexibleWhen it rains, it pours. If you’re planning an outdoor wedding or a rooftop reception, always be prepared for the worst-case scenarios: rain, humidity, and unavailable elevators. A flexible bride is admirable. Put a little humor into the situation, or make something out of it. There’s no use in crying over spilled milk especially with heavy makeup on.

Treat your vendors with courtesy
This means saying please and thank you to your florist, your caterer, and your wedding planner. It’s easier to get the things you want when you’re nice to the service providers. However, when you’re rude to them or simply impolite and inappropriate, you create an atmosphere conducive to failure. They might come to a point where they’d be too fed up to work with you and resign weeks before your big day. Who knows, that waiter who you yelled at for stepping on your train might put a little surprise for you in your soup, so be careful.

Do not dictate on your guests
You also can’t force people to sit in one table just because they look nice in pictures. Seat them according to who you think they will mingle well with to create a light environment.
Speaking of photographs, we all know that you want everything captured to be pretty. However, telling your guests what to wear aside from the attire mentioned in the invitation goes a little too far. Don’t tell, say your sister, to wear something she’s uncomfortable with just because you want your pictures to look perfect. Your guests have their own taste, and you should respect that.

Not everything revolves around your wedding
Your guests have their own lives to live. They have demanding jobs and families to come home to. This also applies to your bridesmaids. So don’t expect them to show up in weekly meetings if the matter isn’t urgent. Their role is to assist you, not work for you. Be equally forgiving to the vendors whose services you employ. Remember that they have different clients to attend to, so don’t make unnecessary and impossible demands such as asking to be provided with samples hours after your initial meeting or changing the menu, the flowers, or the theme of the wedding a week or two before the date.

What do you do to keep your inner bridezilla in control? Let us know you techniques in keeping it together!